đ Hey there! My name is Abhishek. Welcome to a new edition of The Sunday Wisdom! This is the best way to learn new things with the least amount of effort.
Itâs a collection of weekly explorations and inquiries into many curiosities, such as business, human nature, society, and lifeâs big questions. My primary goal is to give you some new perspective to think about things.
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Q: In our quest to find the right answers, how important is it to ask the right questions?
In the movie I, Robot, thereâs a scene where Dr. Lanningâs holographic image insists Detective Spooner to ask the right questions. âIâm sorry! My responses are limited. You must ask the right questions.â The right question will give Spooner a direction to solve the big puzzle of the movie.
We arenât very different from Spooner, played by Will Smith. Our thinking is as good as our questions. And the right questions give us directions to solve lifeâs big puzzles.
Peter Thiel is known for his contrarian thinking. His most famous question is: What important truth do very few people agree with you on?
This question sounds easy because itâs straightforward, but itâs very hard to answer. It forces you to think in a specific direction. If you try to answer it, youâll have to say something unpopular.
For example, an answer like âThereâs no Godâ is bad because it takes one side of a familiar debate. A good answer takes the following form: most people believe in X, but the truth is the opposite of X. How you answer this question can tell a lot about you.
Human beings arenât thoughtless or devoid of opinions. Even those whoâve never spent a single second of their lives thinking about anything can have opinions about everything. We form opinions even if we donât consciously think about them, albeit these are unstructured and ambiguous. Youâll have a hard time articulating them.
Asking the right questions can help you uncover these automatic thoughts, and bring clarity in your thinking â thereby giving strength to your opinions.
Good questions not only give us directions to think, but also present us with opportunities to consciously form opinions, sort out priorities, and make plans.
Steve Jobs forced himself to think in a particular direction by asking: âIf today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what Iâm about to do?â Whenever the answer was ânoâ for too many days in a row, he knew he needed to change something.
Good questions not only force us to think clearly, but also help us uncover loopholes in our thinking and decisions. For example, asking âHow do you know this is not a bad decision?â can unravel a lot of things.
I often ask myself: âIf money wasnât a constraint; would I still want to do what Iâm doing?â The answer is often some variation of: âI would, but I wouldnât do X, Y, and Z.â This answer not only helps me realise if I value my work, but also forces me to consider which bits I dislike about it.
I heavily encourage you to form your questions, but here are some general ones to help you start thinking in the right direction:
Whatâs something you strongly believe thatâs very likely to be wrong?
How much of what you know is shaped by reactions to past mistakes?
Over the last 10 years, what has become more important to you?
If each day had only 12 hours, what would you cut out?
If you keep living the way you do, what will your life look like in 10 years?
My YouTube Video
Do you have the latest iPhone? Millions rush to buy the latest iPhone as soon as it becomes available. Few stop to ask themselves:Â Why should I buy it? People have their reasons; and no reason is crazy. Therefore, it would be impossible for me to answer this question for you. What Iâm gonna do instead is share something about life, money, and happiness, and leave it to you to find the answer for yourself.
Something Iâm Working On
Last Sunday I announced about a little workshop I want to do with you guys. My primary motivation is to meet you guys and do something productive together. Thanks so much for filling out the form I had floated with your inputs. If you havenât done it already, please take 5 minutes to share your ideas.
Some of you wanted to know more about the duration and structure of the workshop. I havenât planned out the whole thing, but here are some general answers:
Duration:Â I want to keep it short. Not more than 6â8 hours spread over 3â4 daysâwith one day gap between sessions.
Strength:Â I want to work with a small batch of 6 or fewer peopleâso that we can have maximum interaction with each other. Anything beyond 10 is bound to end up in chaos.
Structure:Â It wonât be a webinar where Iâll talk and youâll listen. It would be full of discussions, Q&As, and activities. Iâll be sharing the workshop materials a day or two before so that we all can come prepared with our thoughts and ideas.
Feel free to reach out if you have any questions. Also, it would be great if you take five minutes to share your input by filling out this form. I request you to share your ideas even if you donât intend on attending. đ
Be a Multi-SKU Creator
Writers and journalists are leaving big media houses to fly soloâmostly with a Substack newsletter. But according to investor Hunter Walk, having only a newsletter in your portfolio wonât pay for your livelihood.
A newsletter is just one SKU. You need to become a multi-SKU creator. There could be a podcast SKU, a YouTube SKU, a speaking fee SKU, a book deal SKU, a consulting SKU, a guest columnist SKU, and so on. One of these would bring you the most money, but the rest of them act as backups in case something goes south.
Having multiple SKUs gives you the freedom to pursue a mix of creative, economic, and lifestyle goals.
â Why a Paid Newsletter Wonât Be Enough Money
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
The stories we tell ourselves shape our lives. From a young age, the story weâve been asked to believe is that money, power, awards, etc., equal success.
But these âaccomplishmentsâ are traps. Accomplishment, by its very definition, exists only in the future. They force us to sacrifice our present for them. Itâs not a healthy way to spend the present.
They lure us with the promise that if we accomplish this one thing, all our problems will go away, and weâll find peace; but thatâs a lie. As the thinker Jiddu Krishnamurti said, âThere is no tomorrow for us to be peaceful in. We have to be orderly on the instant.â
â Growth Without Goals
Effective Feedback
Here are the 4 steps to give effective feedback:
Ask: âCan I give you some feedback?â
State the behaviour: âWhen you XâŚâ
State the impact: ââŚthe result is Yâ
Encourage effective future behaviour: âKeep it up!â for positive feedback, or âCan you change that?â for negative feedback
Donât give feedback when you are angry, or when you are focussed on the past instead of the future, or when you arenât able to let it go easily. Be extremely considerate before opening your mouth. When it doubt, better not give any feedback.
â 5 Second Feedback
The Brain for the Body
Everything the brain conjuresâfrom thoughts to emotions to dreamsâis in the service of the body. This insight can be used as a source of resilience in challenging times.
According to this, the distinction between the mental and the physical does not matter. For example, anxiety does not cause stomach aches. Rather, feelings of anxiety and stomach aches are both ways that the human brain makes sense of physical discomfort. There is no such thing as a purely mental cause because every mental experience has roots in the physical.
This is the reason why physical actions like taking a deep breath or getting more sleep can be surprisingly helpful in addressing problems we traditionally view as psychological. This is why itâs recommended to have a fit body in order to have a fit mind.
â Your Brain Is Not for Thinking
Your Attention is Your Life
Examining life with the measurement of attention tells you who you are.
If you spend more time thinking about your career, or spend a lot of time engaged at work, you would become a career-oriented person.
This goes the other way around as well. If you are already that type of person, you're likely to care more about your career than other things. This cycle develops our tendencies, and shapes our characters.
Similarly, if you try to pay more attention to the good in others, you can enjoy their camaraderie more. Trying to be nice makes your nicer.
Before You GoâŚ
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Iâll see you next Sunday,
Abhishek đ
PS: All typos are intentional and I take no responsibility whatsoever! đŹ
Abhishek, I like your essays. They are short and to the point. Your videos as well. Thanks for all the work you do.