Sunday Wisdom No. 49
We are not taught how to be good mentors. We either end up showing how much we know (and bask in our own glory), or we focus on making others our fans and followers. That’s not okay!
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📝 What I Wrote
Effective Mentorship: Why The Best Leaders Don’t Create Followers
Whether you are an elder sibling, a parent, a teacher, a coach, a team lead, a CEO, a senior player, a politician, a social media personality, you are a mentor. But we are not taught how to be good mentors. We either end up showing how much we know and bask in our own glory, or we focus on making others our fans and followers (to bask in our own glory). That’s not okay! If others look up to you, it’s your moral obligation to help them.
In this article, I talk about what “effective mentorship” is, and the role of rapport, optimism, character development, and loyalty in propelling growth in others.
💡 Little Bit of Wisdom
Think about your purpose. Think of what a successful outcome would look like. Where would you be physically, financially, reputationally? Brainstorm and ideate about the potential steps. Organise your ideas. Decide on the next actions. Now, are you clearer about where you want to go, and how to get there?
📑 I Enjoyed Reading
You Really Don’t Need To Work So Much — “Recently, the New York Times ran a front-page story about the conditions for white-collar workers at Amazon. It revealed a workplace where abrupt firings are common, grown men and women cry at their desks, and people are scolded for not responding to e-mails after midnight.”
Is it Worth The Trouble? — “In 1942 Albert Camus wrote a book called The Myth of Sisyphus. It is about the one truly important philosophical problem: Given the circumstances of our existence, shouldn’t we just kill ourselves?”
On Writing Well — “Writing fiction is about building a world, where the author is in complete control of its creation, characters and direction. Narrative non-fiction, the best of which reads like fiction, is more about the author consuming particular realities, analysing and rewriting them for the reader.”
🤓 What I Did Last Week
On a normal day, I have breakfast with my girlfriend while we talk about a lot of things. On a bad day, usually when we get up late, we have meetings during breakfast. Those days, we eat breakfast while attending meetings. The worst possible way to start a day! Last week we tried something else. During breakfast, instead of chitchatting, we decided to read to each other.
I loved it! She said she loved it too, and I believe her. I got the idea from Hugh Jackman. This is apparently something his wife and he does everyday—start the day on a positive and happy note. I loved the idea and decided to give it a try.
I chose fiction so that there’s a narrative we both can enjoy while having our morning tea. I picked Autobiography of an Unknown Indian. I start by reading aloud a page or two, and then she reads a page or two while I go on sipping my (almost cold) tea. Sometimes we pause for a while to discuss what we just read.
The author of the book grew up in a Bengali household. When he narrates his childhood there are a lot of things I can relate to. I had read the book back when I was in school. It’s a beautiful book, although I’m pretty sure I didn’t finish it. I still have the copy I had bought in 2004, so this time I decided to take this opportunity to finish it.
📹 I Enjoyed Watching
Solo in India’s Biggest Slum | Dharavi — If I see a video of Mumbai I like, you are damn sure I’ll share it here. I love Arthur Chichester because he allows his audience to travel the world as it really is, not as part of a pre-arranged vacation package. The rawness of his videos could not be matched. “I had seen videos of the squalor and poverty to be found there but I wanted to go and see another side, I wanted to see if I could find some joy there, some happiness, some hope.”
Gladiator: The Tragedy of Commodus — This video looks at one of the most incredible an under appreciated movie villains. Also one of the most complex.
Are You Human? — “Have you ever wondered: Am I a human being? Ze Frank suggests a series of simple questions that will determine this. Please relax and follow the prompts.”
🤔 Worth Thinking About
Some people become so fixated upon life’s grey areas that they eventually succeed in convincing themselves that there is nothing but grey areas. A little realism is in order here. We must recognise that many things are, in fact, clearly and sharply defined, and not to see that is simply not to see clearly.
— D.Q. McInerny, Being Logical: A Guide to Good Thinking
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